While I was editing these pictures from the Johannesburg Botanical Gardens, I fully appreciated how much this archway looks like it’s something straight out of a fantasy world. When trying to think of an angle for the writing part of this post, the dreamlike quality of the spot got me thinking about my dream and plan for the next few years (lol lame I know).
I’ve always been more interested in creative pursuits than analytical ones. In a country like South Africa, where the arts aren’t that highly valued, that already limits my options. Partly as a result of that, and partly because of my immense stubbornness, I’ve always wanted to be my own boss. Nothing about a typical 9-5 appeals to me, with the exception of the steady salary and idea of safety. Despite that – or perhaps because of it – the potential instability of working for myself has always excited me, and pushed me to work harder. Having to forge my own path and make a success of my own dream appeals to me a lot more than going straight into a job that’s already there.
But I’m getting to the point in my life where everyone expects me to have a plan… I finish university at the end of the year, so come January I should get a full-time job, right? That’s the dream, isn’t it? Except for me it isn’t, and when I try to tell people that, they look at me like I’m crazy. Try telling people you want to start a small business or pursue blogging or art or photography, and you usually get responses along the lines of:
“Do you really think you can make a success of that?”
“But there’s so much competition!”
“What if it doesn’t take off?”
Firstly, obviously I think I can make a success of it, otherwise I wouldn’t be doing it. Secondly, of course there’s competition, but that only tells me that it’s even more likely that this idea CAN be a success – because it has been for so many other people. Lastly, I’m 20! I’m not planning on failing to achieve my dreams, but if I do, oh well. If after two years my business is still a flop, oh well. I’ll be 22, and still have plenty of time to forge a new path.
Where have all the dreamers gone? The possibilities that the internet has opened up to us make it easier than ever to follow your dream, but people only seem to cling to their safety nets even tighter. And it’s not just older generations. People my age, who see people ‘making it’ on a daily basis, still think it could never happen to them or the people around them.
Maybe it’s just the mentality of the small city I live in, but more than ever I’m finding people are too scared to take a leap of faith and pour everything into chasing their dreams. It’s sad. Really sad. But more than that, it makes me mad when people expect me to share that mentality. Don’t give up on your dreams, because they’re too big for the small minds of others.
There’s a quote that says, “Work hard in silence; let success be your noise”. That’s the approach I’ve been trying to take recently. And I encourage you to do the same. When people start telling you your dreams are impossible, slip some shades on, ignore them, and hustle until you prove them wrong. Good things come to those who work for them.
On that note, I started my Etsy shop today! I’m making bookish merch and jewellery and though it’s just a small step, it’s a step. One that I’ve worked hard to make happen, and that I’ll work hard to ensure the success of.
Shirt: Edgars (old)
Shorts: Cotton On (old)
Tights: Cameo (old)
Shoes: Cotton On (old)
Choker: Mr Price (old)
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